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My Stand on Critical Reviews, Self-Published Authors, and Book Blogging in General

The end of this year will mark my third full year of blogging.  I’ve seen book blogs come and go and drama happen – sometimes on a weekly basis.  I’ve tried to remain calm, cool, and collected through it all, but it wasn’t until the Stop the GoodReads Bullies drama hit the fan that I began to get a little bit worried.

I’ve, generally speaking, had some good experiences with authors.  I try to include in my negative (i.e. critical reviews) what exactly I disliked about the book.  I very rarely review DNF books – but on occasion I do review them and state that I did not finish, and why.  What all this has come to is me sitting down with a head filled with thoughts and finally, I’m ready to put them down.

First, on critical reviews – these are necessary.  I see friends tweeting, remarking on Facebook, or blogging that they hate writing reviews that slant toward the negative but I can assure you – these types of reviews are vital to the blogging community.  It’s been said over and over in too many posts to link to here that people tend to trust blogs that review both positively and negatively.  Let me give you an example:

I’m friends with quite a few folks on GoodReads, and I read every review that comes up on my feed.  There is one individual who only posts 4 and 5 star reviews (and sometimes the written review does not reflect those star ratings and is filled with criticism).  Those reviews confuse me, and as a result I do not trust the person putting them up.

If I see a website filled with reviews that both glow and criticize, there is a very good chance I’ll be coming back to see if that reviewer has read the next book I’m looking at picking up.  That’s how this works.

Now – on the author front.  I have a difficult time siding with either side fully, because in my mind both sides are in the wrong here.  Not all authors will attack reviewers, and not all reviewers attack authors.  That said – I have been chastised, berated, yelled at, and cursed at for not reviewing self-published books or reviewing one negatively.  Unfortunately, there is not a place anywhere where we reviewers can post our interactions with these authors and warn other reviewers about them – except for on reviews of their books.  Yet Stop the GR Bullies has deemed this as “bully” reviewing.

My response to those people at that website (which I am deliberately not linking to) is this: you can call out reviewers on bullying only when you allow those of us who have been targeted by authors to do the same.  Like I said, neither side is in the right here.  For every instance shown of a reviewer targeting an author, the same can be said for the other side.  The simplest solution is: do not read the reviews.  Seriously – this all starts with the reviewed attacking the reviewer.

When I started school last Fall I made the decision to no longer accept self-published books.  I was relieved, because it took a plate filled with drama off of my table and let me focus, instead, on doing something I loved.  I still get chastised for this decision – in fact, last May I received the following:

I find it discouraging that site that is nothing more than a self-published review site would put in bold that they don’t review self-published books. Here is a quick list of authors who self-published books: Mark Twain, Edgar Rice Burroughs, Leo Tolstoy, Edgar Allen Poe, James Joyce, Louis L’Amour, Marcel Proust, George Bernard Shaw, T.S. Eliot, E.E. Cummings, L. Ron Hubbard and Walt Whitman. E-books are going to change publishing forever and you’re going to be sitting on the sidelines with a handful of readers at best because you didn’t make the effort to find something new and interesting to promote.

I had never heard of this author.  In spite of that, he decided to target my blog in a way that I took offense to. Using phrases like “nothing more than..” and “you didn’t make the effort” are not ways to make friends – let alone get a stranger to read your book.

Now, look at this query I got from a self-published author (one which I happened to accept):

I noticed your review policy states you do not take submissions from self-published authors, and I totally get why.  A lot of us suck, and it seems like the ones who suck the most feel the most entitled to complain when someone says they suck.

Anyway, there’s a chance my novel sucks, but so far the feedback I’ve gotten has been really good.  People are talking about how exciting it is to read, that the plot and characters mess with their expectations, and that the novel is full of new ideas.  I’m hoping in my case you might consider making an exception.  If you don’t like it and put it down before finishing, I promise not to complain. Likewise if your honest review is not favorable.

 

See the difference in tone?  I will disclose that the second email is from an author I know through friends of mine.  However, she was fully aware of my policy and still sent a formal request for a review.

My response to the latter request was, of course, yes.  My response to the former included the following:

As the writer of a self-published review site (and surely you can relate as a blogger), I do not owe you anything.  You are not offering payment for a review, nor would I accept it in any case.  I have accepted, in the last year, two self-published books because the summary intrigued me and I had the assurance of the author that their behavior would be respectful should I choose to review it negatively  or put it aside should I decide I cannot finish it.  However, those  books will not be read until the summer begins and I’ve treated myself to books that I have chosen for myself.
I understand your email was probably a outburst due to frustration, but speaking as a blogger who happens to write book reviews (for her own pleasure and amusement), let me assure you that your name will never be put on my list due to the disrespect you have shown me in your email.  If you cannot be professional in an email, what makes you think that I would ever have found your book to be?

So, let me end by saying this.  Bloggers take a lot of crap (and yes, they give it too) – but the majority of book bloggers and reviewers are unpaid and spend thousands of dollars on purchasing books to review just because they love books.  My own library count is over 500 at the moment and grows every single day.  Authors are looking to market a product, and the reviews of that product will never be 100% positive.  So if this bothers you, don’t look at those reviews.  Live in a world of your own imagination and just continue to press forward to do what you love to do as well.

Although – I tend to think like Richard Castle’s mom does .. a negative review every now and then helps to keep one grounded.

A Brief Pause

Don’t give up on me!  I’m swamped with mid-term papers and a recital preview and playing for a high school musical!

But reviews will be back on track soon – I have so many to write and next week is Spring Break!

Stop SOPA/PIPA

This site has gone dark today in protest of the U.S. Stop Online Piracy Act (SOPA) and PROTECT-IP Act (PIPA). The U.S. Congress is about to censor the Internet, even though the vast majority of Americans are opposed. We need to kill these bills to protect our rights to free speech, privacy, and prosperity. Learn more at AmericanCensorship.org

Merry Christmas!

I hope you all have a wonderful, love-filled holiday! 

I’m Alive

This is my car, Moby.  I bought Moby on June 30, 2011.  On September 9, 2011 this car, guided by God’s hand, saved my life.

At approximately 4:25 in the afternoon last Friday my sister, Candace, and I were driving home from attending school at Eureka College.  We were laughing, had just ordered sushi in our typical “celebrate Friday” fashion, I had just joked that she should call in and we go on a shopping trip for some books, and then it happened.

A man was stopped at a stop sign on a road ahead of us.  We both saw him stopped there and thought nothing of it.  Then, when I was a merely 2-3 car lengths away, he pulled out in front of me.  Candace screamed, I threw my arm over her, slammed on the brakes and we hit him.

I was admitted to the hospital on September 9, 2011.  I was not released until September 12, 2011.  I am currently suffering from a fractured right ankle, badly sprained left ankle, fractured L5 vertebrae, bruised tailbone and multiple bruises/abrasions.  Candace is relatively unharmed, no bruises, but she does have a very sore neck and is experiencing headaches and memory loss, like I am.  The other driver is alive, we do not know his condition.

Aside from the pain, I am experiencing what is every readers nightmare.  I passed out for 10 seconds in the car after the accident – this is not a good thing and the seriousness of it still has not fully impacted me, although its starting to now that I realize just how significant it was that there was a Priest present in the ER throughout my entire experience there.

In short, I am unable to read for any length of time.  After about 10 minutes my eyes roll up in my head and I cannot force another word through.  This is devastating to me, and I hope I recover from it quickly as, you all know, reading is something I’m passionate about – but not only that, it’s a stabilizing element in my life.  On top of my own personal reading, I am a mere 2 1/2 weeks into the start of school, my first semester in a classroom setting in over 14 years.

Prayers, thoughts, good wishes are all appreciated.  I have several reviews in advance posted on my blog here, but after those run out things will be slowing down while I attempt to get my groove back on.

Thank you for reading this blog, for making me feel as if I have something somewhat important to say about the books I read, and for all of your support.  I’m glad I will still be here to post and to chat with you all.

God bless.

- Lydia

 

 

 

 

Happy Thanksgiving!

Wishing you, and all of your families, a very Happy Thanksgiving!

Second Day of Birthday Fun!

What I did for my birthday!

New Blog Design!

Angel from Ninefly Designs has done a fantastic job redesigning The Lost Entwife for me!  I’m still working out a few kinks and getting things up and moving, but I figure that will be a great project for the Bloggiesta this weekend.

So take a look around and let me know what you think!

Friday – What’s New?

First, I’d like to start off with announcing a winner for the Indivisible contest!

Congrats Melanie!

Be sure to check your email today for information on how to claim your prize!

What else is going on this week?  Well.. where do I begin?

  • My mother left this past week after going through a whirlwind of activity and cleaning out my closets for me.  I’m horrible about putting away winter clothes and pulling out the spring/summer – but I do love it when it’s actually done (for neatness reasons as well as for comfort!).
  • I’m having a fantastic week of reading so far – but still have three library books that were due yesterday (!!) so I’ll be incurring some fees as I rush to get them read.
  • Last night my book club met and had a really interesting discussion on the changes in perception of women and housekeeping.  I believe the mutual consensus was that none of us would wish to be a housewife in the ’50′s, but a housewife in the late 1800′s who has servants wouldn’t be that bad.  It sure was a lively chat!
  • This weekend I’m planning on seeing a movie – but which one has me all twisted up!  There’s so many I want to see and just not enough time.  What do you all suggest?

I hope everyone has a great weekend! I have a new contest going up today so be sure to watch for it and watch for a new contest going up in June as well.. I think it’ll be very familiar to a lot of you!

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Jennifer over at Crazy for Books hosts the Book Blogger Hop on Friday’s.  I’ve found some great blogs each week that I’ve participated and encourage you to head over there, enter your link and start visiting!

BLOGS I’VE VISITED TODAY!

The Book Blog

Our Year in Books

Super Reader Girl’s Book Reviews


ABOUT THE HOP:

In the spirit of the Friday Follow, I thought it would be cool to do a Book Blogger Hop to give us all book bloggers and readers a chance to connect and find new blogs that we may be missing out on!  So, I created this weekly BOOK PARTY where book bloggers and readers can connect to find new blogs to read, make new friends, support each other, and generally just share our love of books!  It will also give blog readers a chance to find other book blogs that they may not know existed!  So, grab the logo, post about the Hop on your blog, and start PARTYING!!

The Hop lasts a full week so if you don’t have time to Hop today, come back later and join the fun!  This is a weekly event!